Women want to make sure men are not saying things just so he can get what he wants. Period.
Women:
FIRST: Security
THEN: Have fun
Men:
FIRST: Have fun
THEN: (When hes had enough fun) Security
The two act as >OPPOSITES<. It's crazy
Women will take what you said and bring it out IN YOUR FACE if needed. And their right.
Men, you don't seem to understand that women want the >PROMISE< that what you said about both of you is solid. For women the fun part is SECONDARY (well at first). They want to know FOR SURE what you said, you meant it. After that, it's fine but she wants to be 110% sure you're serious.
If you are not 110% sure, and you say what you say just for a fast one, she will NOT believe you BUT will go for it anyways, pretending to >herself< that you [might] have meant it. The next day she [hopes] you will hold you ground. And she hopes for a call, but ends up waiting, until SHE calls you back, and listens to you BS. And finally gives up, and the same happens over and over and over.
AND she probably will >NOT< enjoy it at all, if she knows your lying. And it gets worse and worse as time goes by. So she'll take whatever she can get as she gets older (for the most part). >BUT< she's not too sure that he's right, but she holds on to him anyways so she has somebody to hold on to...
Know what I mean? It's the same thing over and over and over...
AND on top of that... I wish there was a graph to show you... Once the woman can be 110% sure you'll be OK and have fun... >BUT< you have to understand something. Women needs TIME (for the most part) to start. RELAX...
>But< by the time >YOUR< done, and you >want< to go to >SLEEP<, >SHE IS JUST BEGINNING. Actually knowing how you finish early, she QUITE POSSIBLY holds back because she KNOWS she won't get her part. So she kinda >freezes<, (acting like she enjoys it, but in reality, doe's not). It's like they know it, and they keep their mouths shut because it so obvious to them that he should know.
It would be a good time to put this for women >FIRST< not the man first... The two graphs don't work like that. Guys are like \, and women are like /. She takes some time the warm up. And when she warms up, she can continue a lot...
>BUT< If your 1 shot and that's it, she'll be like, what the heck man, is that it? And she will either wonder what she doing with you, or start looking elsewhere (or maybe have 1 or more "special friends" you don't even know about), OR find another way...
AND if she is an attractive woman, she has >another< problem. She cannot be sure of the man either because (with exceptions) that very handsome man (with very slim in numbers) can potentiality look else where at the same time.
And whereas she would not do that with an ordinary looking guy, because he will try >any way< he can to keep the woman. She's like forget that...
PLUS as she grows "old" (well on the physical side) she doesn't (until later) realize that she has NOT had anything that she needs. It's quite the turnaround (in my opinion). The world is twisted... TWISTING OF THE MIND, plays very nasty games.
Another one I just thought about. If your in a couple and eventually the guy starts >PICKING< at you (perhaps very subtlety), and you, out of nowhere, feel >RESENTMENT<. Now the guy >SUDDENLY< changes (he's all of a sudden, >VERY VERY< nice). You are now in the process of being >MANIPULATED<.
>NOW< there nothing you can do because the >GUILT< is stuck now. It may let you >THINK< you are OK, when you are unfortunately >not<. This happens because you DO NOT KNOW HOW TO LET GO OF THE GUILT/RESENTMENT in your head. So the brain switches to something weird and continues in a >DREAM< state. Next thing you know...
It's TOTAL MANIPULATION! He's piking (subtlety) at you. The >EMOTIONS< are the strength of this game.
IT'S ALL A GAME! Once you have it in front of you, you can >FIX< this trying not to be feeling guilty about it. There's nothing to feel guilty about. The person is trying to have his way with you. For the most subtle, to the most >INSANE< things he says.
If you see it become a game, just MOVE ON... Unless your dad played similar games with you, and the resentment fills you up (you'll feel empty without it)... In which case is a >NORMAL< case of >LIKING< to have this done to you.
It's very subtle on the outside, but it's a deep anger you feel DEEP DEEP inside... You can remove this by >RELAXING< yourself. Close you eyes and try to think of >NOTHING<. Do not force yourself... Breath deeply and just relax.,.
Here is something I used to make me relax... It's very good to get back in focus: https://yvanarshoun.com/tnw-meditation
There are a whole bunch of problems I can talked about that have to do with it, I could basically go at it one after the other and "debunk" them.
From some to none, there's a reason for everything...